Patience, Pickles, and Piggin’ Out

My dependency on dill pickles is nothing new. But if a picture is worth a thousand words, then this one to the left probably says it all. 

I’ve been anxious and incredibly excited just thinking about the moment that I could finally share the news that I’m eating like a little piglet because…

I AM PREGNANT!!!

As women all over the world get pregnant every day, this might not seem like a particularly special achievement.  But if you know me personally or possibly ever read between the lines on this blog – then you know for me – it is.

Can you believe it’s been almost seven years?  Yes, SEVEN long years of trying, hoping, crying, waiting, praying, and yet, NEVER giving up hope.  Out of all the dreams I’ve aspired to make come true, realizing my dream of becoming a MOM has been one of the most difficult challenges I’ve faced.

JUST A LITTLE PATIENCE

If you’ve ever struggled with fertility issues, then you understand firsthand the sadness that comes from not being able to conceive. Couple that with all of your closest friends having babies during this time and a brother who, without seemingly any effort whatsoever, had FOUR girls…no doubt, there have been days when I could barely handle the heartache.

Although I am pretty good about not showing my internal struggles, perceptive friends could sense my emotional turmoil.  Especially because I’m one of those girls who has always pictured myself as a mom.  I’ve been thinking of baby names since I was five and I think my friends and family would agree – kids respond to me.  Kinda like horses do.  It’s hard to explain, but they both seem to know and trust instinctively that I love them.

It’s why I could never, ever wrap my head around the idea that I wasn’t meant to have my own children. 

Perhaps after waiting that long, most people, or at least less determined ones, would have called it quits.  But I’m a business woman, an entrepreneur, an artist – to make a living this way – means I depend on my self discipline, persistence, creativity and vision to make things happen.   So it was out of the question for me to accept that I was unable to have kids.

Despite appearances, I’m a bit rebellious and always have been. Not in a bad way though (so says me)…but in a way that makes me go against convention, encourages me to be different, never listening to anyone who told me I couldn’t do something, who pays no mind to naysayers, who has been out to prove to the world (and most likely myself) that I could do WHATEVER I set my mind to. 

All it takes is a tremendous amount of faith and just a little patience.

FULL OF POSSIBILITIES

Never think in terms of limitations, only see the possibilities.

Years ago, after I was struck by the hit and run driver who ripped my leg apart from my body, left me lying in the middle of the road, and bleeding to death – I was told, after two life saving transfusions and a nine hour surgery to try to put all the pieces back together – that I would never walk again.

With all due respect to the doctors – I didn’t believe them.

I guess that’s how I felt about infertility, too.

In fact, some might say that I wasn’t “really trying” over all these years because I wouldn’t seek medical intervention. I never saw a fertility specialist, much to the chagrin of my OB-GYN who was certain that if the endometriosis was removed I’d increase my chances. Plus, I never once read a message board or forum discussing the topic of infertility.  Perhaps I’ve been in denial.  But I just so badly wanted to believe, like everything else, that Bob and I would figure this out on our own.

Not to mention, the clinical aspect removed the whole romance notion out of how I always thought I would conceive.  I actually preferred to adopt. Maybe because IVF would have solidified that I had a problem, I don’t know.  Morally, I’m not the least bit opposed, but emotionally, I couldn’t admit that I might need some help.  My extreme independence has always been a bit of a double-edged sword.

So, at the beginning of this year, a new decade, a fresh start full of possibilities – I made a commitment to myself, my husband and my entire family.  I would finally ease up on the 80 hour work weeks and seek the expertise of a Fertility Specialist.

PURPLE BOWS

The first appointment at the Texas Fertility Center was standard issue stuff.  Family history, medical history and my sex life.

The next objectives were to:

1. Get a transvaginal ultrasound.
2. Take antibiotics in preparation for the labs.
3. My husband, Bob would have semen analysis done.
4. I would have blood work done on day 3 of my next period.
5. Then an HSG – a hysterosalpingogram – which I still don’t know how to say.  This was scheduled for day 10 of my next cycle.

The ultrasound was first. 

It was a cold winter morning, so I wore my tall black leather over-the-knee boots.  I also had long over-the-knee socks with teeny purple bows peeking out of the top of the boots.  This is what I had on with my hopsital gown.  Up in the stirrups with my boots and bare naked butt hanging over the edge of the table, holding Bob’s hand.

I mean, c’mon, what could be hotter more romantic than that?

Looking at the screen, the doctor notes that my left ovary had released the egg approximately two days ago.  Yay for my left ovary.  It RULES.

My right ovary, on the other hand, is twisted.  Hanging out in the back of my body with my kidneys, it has a mind of its own.  My uterus is also situated on my far right hand side…being pulled by scar tissue. My right leg is the one that was tortured in my accident too.  I had surgery on my right boob in October, my GOD, my right side sucks!

I swear…my left side of my body belongs to me.  The right side is like it’s inhabited by my evil twin.

PREPARATION

Never before have I been so anxious to get my period.  It was only a mere two weeks away since I had just ovulated. 

I was more than ready to get things moving and my next step was to get day 3 blood work done.  In fact, I think I was making myself sick with worry about all the upcoming tests.  I was immediately nauseated and completely exhausted.

I couldn’t concentrate.  I promised to repair and complete the INSPIRE painting and name the winner.  Which I still haven’t done.

I was supposed to do two interviews in the press.  I missed them both. 

I sort of disappeared from Facebook and Twitter, hadn’t talked to any of my friends in weeks and postponed my upcoming Atlanta A La Mode show because I just didn’t have the energy.  The fumes in the studio were making me sick.  I couldn’t sleep at night.  I guess the idea that I was getting ready to go through in vitro had me so nervous that I just wasn’t functioning like my normal workaholic self.

I felt weird. Scared even. I had no idea what was wrong with me.  That is…until I noticed my GINORMOUS boobs.  Not the, I’m about to start my period big boobs…but huge swollen boobs (that on my then 93 lb frame) looked ridiculouly gigantic.

But could it be? Almost seven years later, Bob and I go to our first fertility appointment together and BAM get pregnant before we even begin treatment?  I’m an overachiever and all, but really, this is unreal. 

For years, pregnancy tests have been brutal.  Anticipation had led to so much disappointment.  So, it’s hard to convey the joy of seeing those two pink lines. When I did – I dropped to my knees and bawled like a baby.

The longest day of my life was that day, waiting for Bob to come home. 

I can hardly believe it – I’m going to be a MOM!!!  In May, around Mother’s Day, we will find out if it’s a boy or a girl.  OMG!!  I can’t believe it.

PRAYERS PLEASE

Just shy of two months, it’s probably too soon to share with the world. Ideally, I’d love to wait until the 6 month mark to make sure everything was fine. 

But my whole life had to change in an instant.  My business, my manufacturing, the ability to make our products, to use the chemicals and solvents that I use every day – it has all come to a screeching halt.  The finished products are completely non-toxic, but all the steps that go into making them, all of the elements that have to come together to create those little works are much more hazardous than one might assume.

I have so many decisions to make.  I have to figure out what I’m going to do.  We make everything in house.  It’s always been with utmost pride when I tell people we make everything right here in the Sugarluxe Studio.

Over the last five years, I’ve tried three different factories in the US.  None have been capable of mass producing our card cases and compacts because they are very labor intensive, the materials are expensive, and they are time consuming to complete.

So, I’m at a crossroads.  The decision to stop all accessories production in the studio has been an easy one.  Like beer, coffee, and sushi, I stopped immediately. The truth is I can’t breathe, I get lightheaded and that’s simply not healthy for me or the baby.  I can’t wear a respirator because it makes getting oxygen in too difficult. 

But how I’m going to continue…or possibly not continue making Sugarluxe accessories…is something that is still undecided.

That’s why I’m sharing the news now.

For those who have been patiently waiting for me to announce the winner of INSPIRE – thank you!  Someone is getting that painting.  I promise. 

For those stores and customers whose orders we’ve had had to cancel, I’m so sorry. 

Until some time in the forseeable future, production of any new accessories not in stock (not including art) is on hold.  I’ve waited WAY too long for the opportunity to have a baby.  I’m not taking any chances. The sacrifice of everything I’ve built, the possibility of losing future business…none of that matters right now.

This is what I’ve been waiting for my whole life.  I can resume with my product manufacturing and development later.  And if history has taught me anything – it’s that every challenge I’ve faced in business has created an opportunity for me to figure out a solution that – in the long run - always makes everything better.

So, my hope is that you will continue to follow me on my journey, however it may unfold.

I’ve dedicated my life to trying to live as an example of the philosophies I teach.  Where would I be without gratitude, hope, faith, confidence, kindness, and a bit of rebelliousness thrown in for good measure?

Sticking to these principles, talking about them constantly, incorporating these beliefs into all of my art is a huge part of the reason I’ve never given up.  I made myself accountable to walk the talk.  It’s not that I’ve never been stricken with doubt, depression or despair, I have. But my work and faith helped to fuel my hope.

I can attest to the fact that both professionally and personally, the most cherished things in life are certainly those for which you’ve worked the hardest.

Please send us good luck wishes…we are so excited for this next SWEET chapter in our lives.

Sweet Panda Cupcake Art Print Download! Love, Sugarluxe

BABY PANDAS

There’s no proof, but I’m quite positive that Pandas would love cupcakes.

I’m also pretty sure that EVERYONE loves pandas - what, with that classic black and white fur coat, those woefully sad eyes and their playful, incredibly cute nature - they are one of the most beloved creatures on earth. 

BABY PEOPLE

Rare Magazine’s New Publisher Taylor Perkins Has Issues

ARTIST’S RIGHTS

A contract is a binding legal agreement that is enforceable in a court of law. That is to say, it is an exchange of promises for the breach of which the law will provide a remedy…

This summer, I’ve taken a short sabbatical from the Sugarluxe Blog so that I could dedicate ALL of my creative energy to compose my newest art series.  Perhaps my early work as a corporate trainer and curriculum developer wired my brain to want to facilitate the learning process in others.

The hardest part about teaching from experience, however, is that it often means I must expose my own personal pain to impart the lesson.

So, the question always is – do I reveal the drama with the intent and possibility of helping others?  Or should I keep it tucked away and focus solely on the needs of my company?  When you’ve built a solid reputation, these considerations are always at the forefront of your mind.

Truthfully,  it’s a bit of a dilemma. I’ve built a brand based on the proliferation of sweetness and beauty.  But the reality is  – sometimes – business is just not pretty.

Today, I made that tough decision to put myself on the line.  If it helps just one artist, or one entrepreneur, designer, musician or anyone else that will ever face the challenge of what to do when someone willfully disregards contractual obligations – then it’s worth it to me to share this with you.

INKING THE DEAL

In early January 2009, I was approached by the (former) editor of Rare Magazine, Carrie Crowe.  She wrote to me to inquire about doing a Featured Artist series for their November Fashion Issue.

Despite my affection for the magazine…I had no availability.   I was already working on some new art for 09…but I would in no way have time to do 10 new pieces.

But here’s the thing:  Carrie, a highly respected editor, and her (former) publisher and the Founder of Rare Magazine, Matt Swinney, a much-loved, media savvy entrepreneur – have a way of appealing to people through their genuine passion for their own work and for those whose work they’ve selected to feature.  It’s a very symbiotic thing for businesses when mutually beneficial, long-term relationships evolve into friendships.

After some negotiating of the terms, and Carrie skillfully, yet sweetly convincing me of the many ways in which I could use the issue to support and promote my newest work, we struck a deal.  And despite the reciprocal admiration that has developed over the years…when it comes to Sugarluxe and the rights to my work…I’m all business.

Contracts are a necessity.  Defining expectations – on paper – is a mandatory part of being a professional artist.  Reading agreements, understanding the language, negotiating terms and when necessary, seeking the advice of good counsel, are as much, if not more, the duties that fill my day, as are the creative aspects to my job.

Sound sort of un-fun?  It is.

Yet, after you get through the discomfort of considering all of the what-ifs – should things go south – the anticipation is that each party will meet their obligations as outlined in the contract…and everyone WINS.

I signed my latest contract with Rare Magazine on February 3, 2009.

THE BAD NEWS

On June 15, 2009, I received an email from Carrie.  Both Matt and Carrie were no longer with Rare Magazine.  It was with a heavy heart that I accepted their departure and then went about furiously researching online to find out what went down.

I quickly learned from a local blogger that someone by the name of Taylor Perkins bought out Matt’s share earlier in the year and that Carrie was now a casualty of Taylor’s quest to “bring in fresh blood.”  Spoken like a true ax-man.

So, within an hour of hearing the news, I wrote to introduce myself to Taylor.  100% certain that Carrie handed off all the necessary documentation because she is about the MOST organized woman I know, it was more of an inquiry to find out about the state of Rare.  Would this magazine still be in existence come November 2009?

You see, I’d already invested a month of my time just working out the sketches for the Fashion Issue.  It was not the original theme or direction I had envisioned for my newest art…until I signed that contract. So it became the required foundation upon which this new work would be created.

So I write:

Hi Taylor,

I hope your Monday is off to a great start.

I’m sure you are juggling so many things right now, but I just wanted to check in with you to see how things are going since learning of Carrie’s departure.

Sugarluxe is slated for your November issue…therefore, I thought it imperative that I find out if everything is still going ahead as planned.  Is there ANY chance that Rare won’t be around come November – or for that matter, September 1st when my work is due to you?

If you could please confirm that everything is moving forward as planned, I would be MOST appreciative.  I am very happy to complete my assignment for Rare.  I just needed to touch base for clarification.

Thank you so much and I look forward to hearing back from you.

Chandra

An hour later, Taylor responds:

Yes, everything is fine with Rare. Nothing is changing, we’re just getting some new blood in the office over here. I bought Matt out, and with changes comes changes. It’s going to be exciting to see, we have a lot of great things planned for the magazine and the events that we do.

Um …yeah, okay.  That sounded as direct and coherent as a Gary Busey quote – “Nothing changes like changes, because nothing changes but the changes”.

As the beginning of August drew near (T minus 30 days and counting until my deadline) I thought it time Taylor and I set up a date to review the work. This way, the designer at the magazine could get an idea of the look/feel and color palette of my artwork in preparation for the layout.   I wrote to Taylor on August, 1, 2009.  The email went completely unanswered.  So on Friday, August 14th, I tried reaching him by phone.

A sales rep answered, said Taylor wasn’t available to talk, told me there was a new editor in place and someone would get back to me that afternoon.

The following Monday I receive this much more polished and professional email from the new Editor, Caitlin Ryan:

Hi Chandra,

It’s great to ‘meet’ you over email!  I’ve heard so many wonderful things about you from the staff now at Rare.

Meredith sent me a note saying that you had called touching base regarding November Fashion art.  That there had been an agreement put in place previously.  When I came in (just last week!), I combed through any documents I could find and I did not see anything like this, so I went ahead and assigned November in an effort to get ahead of the game.  I am SO sorry, Chandra.  I understand that you felt a crunch for time, so perhaps this could serve as a bit of a stress reliever.  I would definitely love to feature you, however.  Just have to check and see if you were featured in last year’s fashion issue.

Again, I really apologize.  We were left with very little guidance as far as what was promised to people, and I’m doing my absolute best to do right by all of our contributors.  I know, though, that this wont come without any disappointments along the way.  Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you!

My best,
Caitlin

Despite the fact that I didn’t like the obvious direction this was heading (and at this point, I’d worked 16-18 hour days for the last 30 days straight in order to get all this work done, so was hardly in the mood to be placated) I still respected Caitlin’s diplomacy.

Hi Caitlin!

Thank you for your quick reply. You are so sweet!!

I read your email, but am forwarding my reply on an old email exchange with Taylor on June 15th. This is where I introduced to Taylor that I had a contract with Rare and was slated for your November issue – just in case there were any questions.  So, he was made aware as soon as word was out that Carrie had left her position.

My contract was signed with Rare Magazine on 2.03.09.

Yes, more time would have been great and I truly appreciate your offer.  However, so that I would not be in breach of our contract when I did not hear back from Taylor asking for an extension to complete (sent on 8.01.09 with no response back from Taylor)…I have worked around the clock to finish this series for your Nov issue.

In addition, it has already been promoted to my fan/customer base, so the time, energy and cost (in addition to our agreement in place since February) means I need to go ahead and do November as planned.

I’m sure any artist that you recently selected will understand when they realize you have a contract in place already.

Please let me know details of when we need to go to print and I look forward to receiving the interview questions…

Thanks so much!!
Chandra

And then another 7 days go by with no response from anyone at Rare.

Monday, August 24th, I’m asked to send in my artwork for review.

At first, this seems insignificant.  One might think…yay, it’s settled.  We’re moving ahead without things getting messy.  But never, ever send completed work to someone who hasn’t confirmed they are going to honor their contractual obligations.

Since they are local, I asked for a face to face meeting.

Hi Caitlin,

It’s nice to hear back from you.  I was concerned about not receiving a return response after my email last week.  So, thank you.

Given the fact that there has been some misunderstanding or miscommunication during the transition between owners at Rare, I’d greatly appreciate the opportunity to come meet with you just to have everything squared away.

I’m happy to bring copies/prints of my artwork as all are not all scanned/digitized yet.

When are you available this week?  I just returned to town from a funeral, so getting caught up and can’t do it tomorrow.  But Wednesday afternoon works for me.  What about you?

Thank you,
Chandra

The meeting was then pushed to Thursday…enough time for me to consult my advisors and prepare for whatever was ahead.  I elected to not take anyone into this meeting with me because I don’t like to get all top-heavy when it could just be a simple, friendly meeting of the minds.  The decision to go alone is probably my biggest regret.

Three on one – for the next two hours, I faced a barrage of pointless interruptions from Taylor and although I tried to joke and lighten the air, it was heavy with disdain. Particularly when he started to talk about his former partners and associates, even recent cover artists.  In fact, the things he shared were so out of line, inappropriate and unprofessional…I was shocked.

Keep in mind, this is all while he lavished upon me proclamations of love and adoration for my work.  Never let your stroked ego get in the way of seeing someone’s true colors.

I know so many artists in this town.  In fact, I know so many artists around the world.  To insult anyone in my profession is an insult to me.

I returned to the studio.  Disgusted.

By the end of the day on Friday, I expected to have confirmation that we were indeed on track.  It was less than three days from the drop dead deadline and nothing.

I write to the entire team:

Hey guys,

Thanks for your time yesterday.

To cut to the chase, I’m pretty much done killing myself on this project – so I need an answer today.  Are you going to honor the legal agreement I have with Rare Magazine?  Regardless of the change in ownership, the contract is still valid.

What is your decision?

Thank you,
Chandra

Knowing that the law is on my side, I remained hopeful that he would do the right thing.

Four hours later,  Taylor wrote back.  To summarize:

He tried to appease me with an offer for a small editorial piece and to host my art opening in Austin (please read: a thinly veiled attempt to make more money off of my work while giving me nothing provided for in our contract).  Not the cover.  Not the featured artist with 8 interior sections and the two page picture/interview profile as the agreement stipulates…

A BAD DECISION

But here’s what absolutely bothered me the most…he thinks I’m stupid.

He has the nerve to try to appear as if he’s an artist’s advocate when he writes:

The direction of the magazine is changing drastically under the new management and ownership. One of them is to not repeat a cover artist that we have already showcased, as we feel there are so many amazing artists out there that deserve a shot.

Here are THREE problems with that argument -

First, we have a contract so the point that I have been featured in the past (Dec. 2007) is irrelevant.  Nice try, though.

Second, Sugarluxe was not showcased like many winners after winning the top spot in Reader’s Poll in June 2009 when Sugarluxe was voted Best Artist (this was a fair decision on Carrie’s part due to the fact that in November, I would have a huge presence in the magazine with the Featured Artist spot and cover).

Third, the way Taylor responded in this situation demonstrates his true motives and ethics in regards to helping artists.  He can SAY whatever he wants…but actions are everything.

Popular artists or yet unproven, you start by respecting contractual obligations with ALL artists.

He was in breach of the contract.  And contracts are in place to protect people.

So it all boils down to this…

Publicity is nice.  It’s great to be recognized and I’ve worked very hard to complete my assignment for Rare Magazine.  I’m proud of the work and I’m so thankful to Carrie and Matt who provided the direction and inspiration behind the new series.

But every situation requires some strategic analysis and if you’re anything like me, you work to minimize the brain damage.

The appropriate thing here was to disengage and to do so quickly. I will not compromise my values for a little bit of press. I will not work with someone whose true motives are questionable at best.

Dear Taylor:

Your:
1. Reputation of not delivering on your promises (think about your latest events if you’re uncertain as to my reference)

2. Lack of professionalism (by speaking so negatively and out of turn about your former associates and cover artists)

3. Poor decision making (not honoring a clearly legal and binding contract)

have resulted in my immediate need to retract all permissions or rights of usage to any of my artwork/imagery.

I will no longer take the risk of associating my brand with you.

This does not in any way make you less liable for your breach and only galvanizes my resolve to seek every remedy available to me/Sugarluxe for your actions.

The magazine, according to Taylor, has been “hemorrhaging money” and you just have to thumb through the last issue to see how many advertisers have jumped ship. In a time when the print publication industry is suffering as a whole, it’s disheartening to see someone make such a selfish, costly decision.

So much so, that part of me is tempted to dismiss him as some silly trust fund kid who just doesn’t know better.

THE FACTS

But Taylor Perkins is not dumb; he knows exactly what he’s doing. He took a calculated risk.

History seems to dictate that most artists don’t have the means, the resources, or the fortitude to put up a fight. And he assumed because I am known as being a sweet, compassionate person to work with, that I was probably a total push over, too.  Guess again Taylor.

At the end of the day – the damages are demonstrable. The documentation and law both work in my favor.

His actions present a perfect case study for creatives everywhere.  It may seem like a RARE thing to have happen, but regrettably, the practice of taking advantage of artists, writers, musicians, photographers, etc. with the assumption that they don’t have much business savvy is rampant – and it is WRONG.

So, while I determine what to do next, I need a little breather from this stress and I will simply take solace in knowing that once in awhile, and perhaps at this very moment, the pen really can be mightier than the sword.

The Facebook Quiz | Find Out: Which Sugarluxe Girl Are You?

Quite seriously? I’ve been dying to make and take this quiz for years.  Sometimes technology just has to catch up with the vision.

Before completing my undergrad degree in Psychology, I began considering what I’d like to study next (yes, I’m one of those nerdy types who loves to learn!)

Luckily, one day, bolting  across campus to gather information on both the LSAT and requirements for secondary teaching certification, I ran into one of my former professors.  He told me a little bit about his research in the Ed. Psych Department.

He was overseeing a Graduate Program with a specialty in Cognition.  After hearing just a brief description, I knew it was what I wanted to do next. 

 LEARNING and COGNITION
“Educational Psychologists who concentrate their work in these areas try to better understand the factors that influence performance and how to affect positive change.”  Quoting this description from the department itself, you can probably see how this became part of the foundation upon which I would eventually build the Sugarluxe Brand. 

Having spent two years prior to graduation helping to conduct research with another professor in the area of Abnormal Psychology, I was really looking to switch gears.  It was my last year of undergrad that most greatly impacted my direction.  I was assigned to work at a hospital about an hour and a half south of town.  I reported to the psychiatric wing once a week.  We were doing a study on schizophrenia.  I was the only female research assistant (and barely 20 years old) on an all-male patient ward.  I remember the overwhelming feeling of apprehension the first time I walked through those double doors.

ART + PSYCHOLOGY
But after acclimating to the unrelenting cat calls, it was a weirdly rewarding and life altering experience.  Namely because of one patient.

I don’t even know if this man knew I was there.  I sat next to him.  I observed him.  I tried having countless conversations with him.  But he never responded to me.  He wasn’t catatonic, he was just a bit delusional and suffering from severe hallucinations.  The deal was…he would draw the entire time.  He was quite an amazing artist and when he finished each sketch, he would talk to it as if his drawing had come to life.

Despite having a fairly profound disturbance, I found him to be fascinating and inspirational.  In fact, he affected me so deeply, I realized, I wasn’t cut out for that kind of work.  I was afraid I would never be able (and never want) to desensitize myself.

Instead of focusing on what was wrong with him, I wanted to figure out what was right. 

What had happened to this man?  Who were the people he portrayed in his art?  What motivated him to draw?  Was he always compelled to create?  How did it help him to cope with life?  Could we use his talents to facilitate treatment?

CRAZY IDEAS
Back then, I would have never dreamed that I would get to live my life doing what I do. 

In all honesty, I think I was a little scared that people might think I was delusional for thinking I could be an artist.  Or that I could build a company with very little money, based on artwork that had never been seen by anyone, with no connections in the art world, no formal art training and with the intent to spread a message of hope and optimism, especially at a time when that was so clearly against the status quo. 

Maybe THAT’S crazy?!

Just as I imagine it must have somehow helped my patient, creating art has helped me to cope with pain, confusion, and frustration.  The fact that I’ve chosen not to depict those feelings as part of the artwork itself, and merely as part of the therapeutic process it provides, doesn’t make it any less profound.  There’s far more there for those who look below the surface.

MORE THAN MEETS THE EYE
That’s why I’ve anxiously awaited the opportunity to implement a Sugarluxe Girl profile quiz. Even though there are probably thousands of quizzes on Facebook now, this one actually does have years of thought, understanding and analysis behind it.  Its influence is a product of my work itself.  The personalities that are infused into the art are drawn from the very people who continue to inspire each and every piece I make.

Part of my mission has always been to comprehend the complexity of the positive characteristics that make up our personalities and how those attributes contribute to our sense of self.  The way that I’ve tried to do that is by simplifying those wonderful traits into something visually iconic.

FUN on FACEBOOK
Does that sound too lofty and idealistic for a simple Facebook Application?  I hope not.  It takes less than 5 minutes and it’s also FUN!

I have a blast meeting up with friends/fans on Facebook.  I love seeing what you’re up to, learning about your families, looking at photos and watching the massive amounts of support that people provide one another there. 

Plus, I’d bet people agree – I’m actually a lot more light-hearted than I probably sound here.  This blog is like my diary and facebook is more reflective of my daily life. I guess it just depends on where I am at any given moment.

But that’s really my whole point.  Like the pictures that I paint, we have so many layers, don’t we?

I hope you like the first Sugarluxe Girl quiz.  More importantly, I hope you will share it with friends because the profiles, although definitely fun, are also meant to reinforce how wonderful you are – to me – and to all those who know you. 

The results I’ve seen, seem to be pretty spot on.  What do you think?  Which Sugarluxe Girl Are YOU?

 

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Our True Potential?

I greatly appreciate your help in this mission:  To understand our most positive personality traits, how they affect our outlook on life and by acknowledging and owning those characteristics, we can identify, and hopefully, bring out the best in others, too.

This is one way, TOGETHER, we help people discover that confidence and kindness are essential building blocks of a better life. 

7 Steps on How You Can Help:

1.  If you haven’t already done so, START by joining us on the Sugarluxe Facebook Page.

2.  Paste this link to your profile - http://www.facebook.com/pages/Sugarluxe/85019116599

3.  Next, be sure to take the Facebook Quiz - Which Sugarluxe Girl Are You?

4.  Post or even re-publish your results to your profile and invite your friends to participate too.

5.  Leave a comment here on this Sugarluxe Blog post and share the results of your quiz.

6.  Write your Facebook App Review on the Sugarluxe Quiz Application Page.

7.  Discuss ideas with other creative, compassionate, kind, charismatic Sugarluxe Friends!

LIFE is FABULOUS (and so are Moms)!

Last week, I received great news with this subject line:  FABULOUS Sugarluxe Art is in LIFE Magazine.  As usual, I couldn’t wait to call my mom.  It was an exclusive feature on Miley Cyrus.  I mean, I may never land in LIFE Magazine myself, but it still felt pretty good to see my art in the spread. 

Anyway, the only trouble is, by the time I come here onto the blog and talk about an experience, all of the effort that went into making those moments possible get lost in the mix.  People who are just starting their careers or those looking for hope amidst the economic chaos can mistakenly believe that this kind of stuff happens overnight.  How are you supposed to get inspired if it all seems like it just comes down to some twist of fate?

My mom taught me that you have to make your own luck.

Great Expectations

First, there’s obviously more to making Fabulous Art than meets the eye.  

I oversee the behind the scenes manufacturing, day to day operations, design and direction of the Sugarluxe brand.  I’m fielding a mounting number of private commissions, juggling the exchange rate with seven countries who carry the line, and trying to ensure that we continue to deliver the top notch customer service that helped to get Sugarluxe to this point in the first place. 

Plus, I’m under contract to complete my next art series by the end of August and cannot show anyone until November 1st (ugh!), and talking to a handful of gorgeous Fine Art Galleries to discuss where I might like to showcase a few of my original paintings.

Also (telling self to breathe), I’ve been spending any spare moment possible working to help pass a bill in Congress.  In fact, a few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to deliver Congressional testimony in hopes of persuading the Senate to sign this bill into law.  Last week, the bill was passed at the state level.  YAY!!! 

If , well I prefer to think – when – we get the federal bill passed, too, it will literally and positively impact millions of lives.  

It’s simple really. I believe you have to expect great things to happen.  In my first year of business, one of my friends warned me that I expected too much. 

She advised, “Expect less, so when bad situations occur, you won’t face such disappointment.  And, when good things happen, you’ll be pleasantly surprised.”

Coming off of a tremendously hard blow, I could see her reasoning.  But I respectfully disagreed. 

What’s LIFE, if it’s not to wish for great things for yourself and those you love?  Lowering expectations in an effort to avoid disappointment is defeatist at best, or worse, completely without hope.

I’ve survived my share of losses.  Sacrifices have been significant.  Conversely, I’ve been greatly rewarded too.  

My mom encouraged me to focus on the blessings in LIFE and she raised me with the belief that to whom much is given, much is expected.  She smartly added, that when much is expected, much is given, too.

I don’t mean self-entitlement.  Please don’t misconstrue my message.  Fundamentally, it’s about hope and faith.  When the bad stuff happens, and it does, it will, it’s the only guarantee, you’ll find peace of mind in knowing that something good is meant to come from it.

 Possibility Through Purpose

1. Yes, the odds are stacked against us. 
2. Yes, times are tough. 
3. Yes, we are in the midst of an economic recession. 
4. AND yes, running a business is a lot less glamorous than it seems on the surface. 

However, when you have clarity of purpose, anything is possible.  

After the hit and run accident that nearly claimed my life, my mom presented my options.   She warned me that it would be easy to use this trauma as my excuse for everything. After all, the damage was extensive and permanent.  Or I could try to make sense of it and find my purpose for living.  She said,  “It may take years of hard work before your efforts pay off , but they will.  I promise”.

Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.  - Marion C. Garretty

P.S. - To My Mom, Happy Mother’s Day!

You are so loving, so generous, so beautiful and I’m so happy that you’re my mom.  You’ve provided guidance and discipline in just the right doses…while still allowing me to discover my own sense of self.

You instilled in me a confidence that I could accomplish anything I set my mind to and that’s been one of the greatest gifts I’ve ever been given.  You’ve never doubted my abilities, you continue to believe in me and you pray for me every day. 

Most importantly, you make me laugh all the time.  Proving to me that it was of utmost importance to be a great role model first and then later, my most FABULOUS friend. 

You have taught me so much…I love you, and I thank you.

What About Your Mom?

Please take a moment to share something FABULOUS about her.  I’d love to hear about a lesson your Mother has taught you that has positively affected your outlook on LIFE.

Vote NOW for the Woman Who Should Win Soul Sista

Four weeks of contests and blogging, and FREEBIES and oh yes, by the way, running the company, managing people, creating new art, producing products, negotiating deals, meeting the needs of retailers, the demands of my publisher, doing more interviews, delivering new projects and getting ready to go to DC next week to speak in front of Congress (ooh – that’s a long, totally separate story) has me ready to explode into a million little pieces.

But then you stopped by here for a solid month…sending love, encouragement and the most excellent feedback an artist could ever want to hear. During the long hours and facing my endless list of to dos – it was such a pleasure to read the amazing comments over the past few weeks – they really kept me going.

I know without a doubt, that even though we had 10 LUCKY WINNERS last month…there are still people who will not be happy (with me) about not winning a prize.  That was the hardest thing about holding these great giveaways.  I want to reward everyone.  But I trust that you understand that isn’t feasible.  I guess what I mean…is that I hope that the generosity is contagious even if you didn’t win – this time.

You see…I believe in the Golden Rule, the Law of Reciprocity, Karma or any other cosmic, universal meme that suggests you get what you give.  Point is, you proved it to me ALL month long.  Did I seriously have time for the giveways? Not really. But what I received in return from offering these prizes is a tremendous amount of support which is very valuable to me! And so it seems – it always comes full circle.

I feel very fortunate that you helped to spread the word about what we are doing here at Sugarluxe.

This brand is more than just pretty pictures.  It is to me, above all else, about a personal, fundamental philosophy built on the belief that extreme determination coupled with kindness, confidence and consideration can be the key to success. And if you know me AT ALL, you see that message is “baked” into everything I create.  So what thrilled me the most was the support and kind competitive spirit you showed each other during this FIERCE competition.

And as MUCH as I greatly appreciate everyone’s efforts…there were a few LADIES who truly worked it like nobody’s business.  Through our analytics software, we were able to track all referring links into both the blog and our main website. These awesome ‘Sugarluxe Girls’ worked very hard (and very creatively, I might add) to spread the word about Sugarluxe and their tenacity was revealed in the results.

I couldn’t let this go unnoticed!  It’s not to take away from so many who put forth great effort too…please know that.  This last minute GIFT IDEA is just another way for me to extend my gratitude to someone who really went the extra mile.

Call me crazy…but this is something I just have to do.  So, for now…another bad ass prize!

One of the top girls will win this:

• 40″ x 40″ Gallery Wrapped Canvas – Soul Sista by Sugarluxe
• Signed & Numbered – AP 1/1
• Embedded with Six Genuine Swarovski Crystals
• With a Personal Note to Winner on the Back
• Also Includes a Certificate of Authenticity

You may have seen pictures on the website this summer when I was actually going to offer this version online.  But for those who pay closest attention…you might have noticed that it went away.  That’s because, just like the Ruby Moon | Cheers Darling piece…I decided to keep this one for the studio.  The version for sale online is the original Soul Sista – so again – this gift/giveaway is another One of a Kind!

For those of you following the updates on Facebook Saturday night…you knew that I gave out one more hint.  (Oh wait! – You didn’t know that I gave insider tips?) – That’s why it’s good to become friends on Facebook where I share lots of little secrets. It was announced on my Facebook Profile as a NOTE entitled:

If you’re playing to WIN at Sugarluxe, you should probably read this…

Well – as you know by now – Stean P. worked his butt off and earned the Grand Prize!  And those who were right on his tail?  (These names are in no particular order):

1. Ebony Y.
2. Jori B.
3. Jette M.

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These women deserve a round of cyber-applause for their ingenuity and such genuine affection for Sugarluxe. With that said, I now leave it in your hands to choose who should win this awesome Soul Sista Canvas.  For another sneak peek… you can see this piece in the studio - remember this picture at the bottom of the post?  I sure am gonna have some bare walls after all this giveaway goodness!! Voting closes at 11:59 on Friday, March 6th.

P.S.  Ladies – I already know that you are FANTASTIC!  But in order for everyone else to get a good vibe – feel free to use the comments section below to convince your fellow commenters why the WINNER should be YOU!

Every vote is tracked to prevent fraudulent clicks and other artificial means of inflating the results.

Good Luck!

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To everyone else who participated all month long during the Sugarluxe 4 Year Anniversary Giveaways – THANK YOU AGAIN!

I never want anyone to walk away completely empty-handed.  So below I’ve included the code for an exclusive coupon worth 50% OFF any ONE item in the Sugarluxe Shop.  It’s only valid for a very limited time and it’s not a total FREEBIE – but hey – like my mom always says, it’s better than nothin’…

Plus, over the next few months we will definitely be coming up with additional contests.  So, be sure to stay in touch to take advantage of future opportunities.

Z Gallerie Continues to Sell Out of Sugarluxe Art Giclees

Ya know what?  I never get tired of hearing stuff like this:

Your in store art signing was a huge success! Managers commented the event brought in new customers and that you were delightful.  We had a good Sugarluxe weekend in other stores across the nation…some stores just received their stock last week and it sold out over the weekend! – D.D. - Head Buyer, Z Gallerie Stores

And this recent picture of two Sugarluxe pieces in the display window at Z Gallerie?  Well, it really does bring a tear or two.  Sniff. Sniff.

The flip side of this AWESOME news is that people need more information.  We receive emails daily from customers who’ve discovered the Sugarluxe Brand in Z Gallerie stores and many are asking specific questions about the line.  

It’s here that I hope we can provide more assistance and answer some of your most Frequently Asked Questions:

Q.  What is a Giclee?

A giclee refers to both a category of collectible fine art and the process of reproduction. Utilizing the latest technology, with the guidance of meticulous printmaking standards, our artwork is reproduced to museum standards.  Although many people are throwing around the word giclee these days to represent any reproduction methodology…it doesn’t mean that every reproduction print is actually a fine art, archival giclee.  Numerous examples of true giclee prints can be found in museums throught the world including The Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York, the Los Angeles County Museum of Art, the San Francisco Museum of Art and the British Museum.

Q:  Why doesn’t Sugarluxe currently sell original works of art?

My original paintings are kept in a secret safe place – away from my studio.  Holding onto the originals and making reproduction prints available to customers is a winning combination for everyone.  Sugarluxe customers get a gorgeous, signed and numbered piece and it’s affordable too.  Plus, as an artist, it’s smart because keeping original artwork and selling Limited Editions can greatly increase the value of the artwork in the future.

Did you know that in 2002, a record was set for pop artist Roy Lichtenstein when his original work – Happy Tears (pictured above, left) sold for $7.1m at Christie’s in New York?  The 1964 work, depicting the artist’s trademark comic-book style, was bought by an anonymous bidder. It broke the record for a Lichtenstein that had been held until 2002 by his work, Kiss II (pictured above, right) – a piece purchased for $6m in 1990. Happy Tears was part of Christie’s sale of post-war and contemporary art.  BBC News

Q:  Why do the Z Gallerie stores carry such a limited selection and supply of Sugarluxe Fine Art Giclees?

Great question.  The truth is, I really don’t know why they maintain such a limited supply.  I think they should keep more in stock and they should buy a bunch at a time!  But they did purchase two main works with exclusive rights to distribute.  That means I won’t sell these pieces to any other major retailer…but we can sell Artist’s Proofs direct to you (or if your Z Gallerie location is sold out and hasn’t yet received new shipments.)

Q:  Why can’t I find the Sugarluxe pieces on the Z Gallerie website?

Recently, the head buyer at Z Gallerie informed me that they want and plan to post Sugarluxe artwork on their website, but they simply haven’t gotten to the site udpates yet.  I wasn’t given at ETA…but will come back here to post any new info. 

UPDATE:  ZGallerie now sells select Sugarluxe Giclees on their website.

 Q:  When will the Sugarluxe site begin to offer Giclees?

Very soon!  We’ve been working for about 4 months to complete a new, dedicated section on our website which features a variety of images, sizes and framing options for our customers.  We want to make sure that we make it as easy as possible to buy your art online and to allow you the most versatility in choosing your special Sugarluxe piece. 

UPDATE:  We now sell Sugarluxe Limited Edition pieces and Artist’s Proofs online at www.sugarluxe.com.  Every piece is hand signed and numbered (with a special note on the back…because that makes it even sweeter!)

Q:  What if I bought a canvas from Z Gallerie, but I didn’t get to come to one of your art signings, will you still sign my piece in person?

I will always sign your piece in person, if at all possible.   Also, all of the associates and executives I’ve met at Z Gallerie have been GREAT.  Let them know next time you’re in your local store so that the POWERS THAT BE over at the Z Gallerie headquarters can decide when/where they might book another event.

Q:  Are you really rich now that you have products in all these big stores?

Licensing as a visual artist is tough business. I’ve experienced bitter disappointments, so much so, that sometimes it seems unreal.  But I guess that’s what makes the small victories so much sweeter.

The Suits (as I like to call them) stand to make the most money off of any successful creative, aka The Talent.  The business is quite similar to that of the music industry.  Basically, the goal for both is to put out multiple best-selling hits. 

If you don’t do that consistently, no matter how great your first big chart-topper, your life in the limelight could very well go the way of Chumbawumba.  And who would want that?

Z Gallerie Unveils Exclusive Sugarluxe Collection

I can’t believe it’s been less than 3 years since launching Sugarluxe from my small loft.

Having already outgrown two studios and earning my stripes as a real risk taker (trust me I have the entrepreneurial scar tissue to prove it) – I’ve arrived at a marker in my career that I’ve been dreaming about for years.

This particular dream started when I walked into Z Gallerie.

Over a decade ago, my mom discovered this great home decor store and thought it was the perfect place for me to find things for my first home. By nature, I tend to be pretty eclectic, so she knew I’d love it. The moment I walked in, it was more than love. I was overcome with a feeling, that to this day, I can hardly describe.

I muttered to my mom, “My stuff will be in this store someday.” After all – born July 22nd, I’m on the cusp of Cancer & Leo, which might explain why I thrive on the duality of business and art.

But the feeling, or vision, or whatever it was that day has remained crystal clear.

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